Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want To Come
by Jessica Pan
publication date: May 28th, 2019
my rating: 4 out of 5 stars
Synopsis via Goodreads:
An introvert spends a year trying to live like an extrovert with hilarious results and advice for readers along the way.
What would happen if a shy introvert lived like a gregarious extrovert for one year? If she knowingly and willingly put herself in perilous social situations that she’d normally avoid at all costs? Writer Jessica Pan intends to find out. With the help of various extrovert mentors, Jessica sets up a series of personal challenges (talk to strangers, perform stand-up comedy, host a dinner party, travel alone, make friends on the road, and much, much worse) to explore whether living like an extrovert can teach her lessons that might improve the quality of her life. Chronicling the author’s hilarious and painful year of misadventures, this book explores what happens when one introvert fights her natural tendencies, takes the plunge, and tries (and sometimes fails) to be a little bit braver.
The law of attraction states that “like attracts like.” With that being said I like to think that probably a majority of us book bloggers might consider ourselves to be shy and introverted. I know I am.
According to Psychology Today (as of May 2012), Researchers estimate extroverts make up 50 – 74 percent of the population, with introverts making up the other 16 – 50 percent of the population.
The biggest and simplest difference I’ve found between the two is that introverts get their energy from “alone time” and extroverts thrive being around people. I get physically drained from interacting with people, just the idea of going to a family gathering is exhausting for me. 16-50% is a pretty big margin and I believe that the margin has become more accurate in the years since 2012. The point I’m trying to get it is that many of us can probably relate with the fears Jessica Pan challenged herself to face.
I picked this up to fulfill the Goodreads Summer Reading Challange “Stranger than Fiction: read a nonfiction book published this year.”
I don’t read a lot of nonfiction, I get bored easily and end up craving a novel, and that’s something that I’m slowly trying to work on. I challenge myself to read a few nonfiction books every year and this is the first one that I’m reviewing!
This book was quick to read, funny, and beyond relatable. I don’t mean relatable in a way that someone might think “Oh she’s an introvert and I’m an introvert, I can relate to that.” The passage that really got me was the part where she faced her fear of public speaking. My number 1 nightmare. I have been known to faint during similar events. I get so scared and I straight up forget how to breathe and pass out. It sucks. I definitely found myself relating to her thoughts, how she felt leading up to and during the public speaking. Her thoughts that she recalls during the event is what it makes her so relatable.
I can only imagine how a one on one conversation with Jessica would be in real life because so much wit and humor just bleeds through these pages and you know how authentic she must be for her writing to have that effect.
Not only does she talk about her experiences and how she felt during them, but she also reaches out to therapists and references research and studies about why an introvert might respond in a certain way to an uncomfortable situation.
While I was reading I felt entertained, some secondhand cringe, and inspired by her determination to stick with the challenges she set for herself and her resolve to see everything through. I couldn’t help but wonder how my life might change if I were to try to branch out and try new things or meet new people.
I’ve already recommended it to a few friends in my life who also identify as an introvert and I would even recommend it to some of my extrovert friends so they could see some of the situations that make me uncomfortable and they could see why.